In all relationships, no matter how much love we share with our partner—no matter how in love we are—we might find ourselves at a crossroads where the honeymoon period dissipates and you’re left wondering where the spark has gone. Maybe you’re wondering why it seems harder to get in the mood, or why you aren’t exactly jumping each other’s bones anymore. At times, it may seem like what used to happen “naturally” is no longer working. If this sounds like you, don’t worry! This is all completely normal, and you can easily get back to a close, loving & passionate place.
The most important thing to know going in, is that you and your partner are a team, so you’re not left to solve this on your own, you can solve it together! If you’re feeling your partner seems distant from you, here are five things you should do immediately
1. Offer warmth
You might be feeling neglected and even bitter, but try to muster some warmth and kindness to offer your partner. Find ways to offer genuine compliments and encouraging words. It’s possible they’re feeling low, this is a good time to offer a hand. But don’t be overbearing.
2. Give space
If your partner asks for space, give it to them. Take a step back, focus on yourself, and show them that you respect their wishes. Don’t challenge them or take it personally. Don’t make them feel guilty for asking for it.
3. Open up
Ensure that you let your partner know that you’re ready and willing to have a conversation. Don’t be confrontational or come into the conversation with a chip on your shoulder. Shake off whatever frustration you have and try your best to offer a supportive space for your partner.
4. Stick around
Don’t get discouraged and unplug. Try your best to stay busy and focused on your own goals. If you check out prematurely, you’ll regret it. Do whatever you can to find patience within yourself. Be a constant for your partner who is obviously going through something.
5. Ask yourself
It’s important to take the time to consider what your partner is going through, but it’s even more important to check in with yourself. Ask yourself the hard questions. Is the relationship healthy? Is it lasting? Are you satisfied with your partner? Are you a good partner? Why are you holding on to the relationship? Because sometimes it just it was it is: your partner is distant because the relationship is fading. If that’s the case, be honest with yourself, be graceful and be kind. But if it’s not over for you, there’s a chance it’s not over for your partner. Patience, patience, patience.
