Relationships require hard work if you want them to last. They’re like a lovely garden. Relationships never get the chance to fully blossom (like flowers! In a garden!) unless you ignore some minor issues.
It’s a very “choose your battles” type of situation where some things that may seem like they’re going to crap all over your lawn end up making the grass just that much greener. Let’s take a look at some relationship issues you should probably try to ignore.
1. Bossiness
If you have to deal with a bossy partner, then you’re not the only one. It shouldn’t bother you too much because you can always tune out the bossiness and do it your way.
They of all people will understand the importance of getting things done your way. All you have to do is calmly remind your partner that being bossy may advance their career, but at home, that attitude has to be left at the door.
2. Alone Time
Okay, let me preface this by saying that some people just like being alone, despite being in a relationship. Being able to lock yourself off from this maddening world that seems to spend every waking hour driving you further and further towards insanity can be such a liberating thing and you shouldn’t take that away from your partner because you’re feeling insecure about yourself.
That’s right: any issue you have with your partner wanting alone time is an issue you have with yourself. Of course your partner is looking more forward to a night out with friends than he is to a night out with you – the whole idea is to do something different to break the pattern! As long as they always come back home and don’t cheat, who cares?
3. Superiority Issues
This all comes down to interpretation and how you perceive situations. Yes, some partners do have a superiority complex and view their significant others as trophies or whatever.
But if you really want to talk about superiority in the relationship, this is something that you can easily manage if you talk to your partner and either accept that this is the way it’s going to be but they mean no harm with it, or just agree on some boundaries. It’s not something worth fighting over if it isn’t something that suffocates you every step of the way.
4. Spending Habits
Partners that spend a lot of money can be annoying, that’s true, but they’re not as annoying as partners that don’t make any money.
If your partner also works and makes a solid part of the family income, there’s no reason why they shouldn’t be allowed to spend some of that money. If you have enough saved up to deal with 2 or 3 items of “random life bullshit”, it’s probably fine anyway. Don’t stress too much over it.
5. Messiness
Socks in the hallway? Makeup spilling over every surface counter? Unmade bed? Well, messiness is very subjective. What may seem like an unholy mess to you may just be how things are done to others.
There’s nothing wrong with gently reminding your partner to pick up after themselves and to make an effort to cater to your neat whims, but don’t blow it out of proportion. Only make a fuss if their messiness crosses the line and traipses into the unhygienic zone.
6. Your friends hate your partner
We have all been exposed to that uncomfortable scenario whereby your friends don’t get along with your partner. You can no longer plan group get-togethers without being shot a couple of eye rolls from your besties.
At the end of the day, you’re the one dating this person, not them, so you should just let this relationship issue go. In fact, it shouldn’t even be an issue at all. Your friends will eventually come around, so no matter what, keep trying to make it work on both sides.
