Father Snubs Biological Daughter’s Wedding to Attend His Stepdaughter’s Wedding
The man, who posted his story anonymously, said that his stepdaughter sent out a save-the-date for her wedding, and then his daughter sent out her own a week later.
The trouble began when he realised they both fell on the same weekend, with the stepdaughter’s wedding taking place a day before the daughter’s, and both had requested that the man walk them down the aisle.
Despite being a 13-hour drive apart, the man thought he could attend both – but after hitting traffic and getting lost on the way, he missed his daughter’s reception and she was instead walked down the aisle by her stepdad.
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AITA for missing most of my daughter’s wedding after she scheduled hers a day after my stepdaughter’s wedding even though I tried to be there?
My daughter has always been resentful of my stepdaughter and growing up, we’ve had to deal with a lot of issues related to this resentment.
The unfortunate reality was that my ex and I had shared custody so naturally, I saw my daughter less then my stepdaughter. My stepdaughter’s biological father passed away and I’ve treated her like my own since she was 2. I love them both equally and I’ve never shown preferential treatment towards my stepdaughter, something my daughter always accuses me off.
In 2019, my stepdaughter sent out a save the date for her wedding for a Saturday in September. My daughter immediately called me, furious and accusing her stepsister of deliberately planning her wedding the day before hers.
My daughter sent her own save the date a week later for the Sunday on that same weekend.
I talked to my stepdaughter who said it was pure coincidence and that she doesn’t even talk to my daughter after all those years of them not getting along.
The issue was that my daughter’s wedding was happening in another state that is a 13 hour drive away.
And both of them wanted me to walk them down the aisle.
All of my extended family chose to attend my daughter’s wedding over my stepdaughter’s.
I did the math and I calculated that if I left my stepdaughter’s wedding at 10pm and drove through the night, I’d make it with 2 hours to freshen up and get ready.
Unfortunately, I got lost along the way plus traffic and I missed the actual wedding ceremony. My daughter’s stepfather ended up walking her down the aisle by himself.
I feel like I tried my best to make both my children happy but I failed one of them completely. My stepdaughter and her husband have been attacked on facebook by my daughter’s friends who is claiming that my stepdaughter planned it on purpose.
And when I tried to clear up the situation I was completely shut down.
I gave my daughter and son-in-law an additional gift of money to go to Japan, which has always been their dream. It was a lot of money but I hoped it would be a sort of way for me ask forgiveness.
They had to postpone their trip because of covid but my daughter refuses to even consider any sort of forgiveness.
The few times she picks up my calls always ends with her bringing up the wedding and getting angry at me again.
I was told by a few members of my family that I was the asshole for not prioritizing my biological child’s wedding and skipping my stepdaughter’s wedding instead.
AITA?
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Soon Redditors weighed in, with many agreeing that the dad bungled the situation royally, with some even accusing the man of favoring his stepdaughter over his flesh and blood daughter.
“YTA Word of advice op the reason why she isn’t satisfied is because she never wanted the money or expensive gifts she just wanted her dad. I feel like this was a pattern for her growing up. I know it was beyond your control and you say there was no favoritism. It probably came off that way.
You’re not an asshole for trying to be there for both of them.You’re the asshole for being blind thinking you can buy her off.”
“My first thought was to wonder why OP didn’t book a flight instead of driving 13 hours. Surely if OP has money to splash for a holiday for his daughter he could have booked a plane and hire car”
What do you think? Was this dad wrong for not attending his biological daughter’s wedding, or did he do the right thing? Let us know in the comments. And please be so kind as to pass this story along to your friends and family?
Source:reddit.com
