In the first several months after having a newborn, new parents frequently feel frightened and stressed. While certain instincts are natural, and some parents are better knowledgeable, things may become tricky when others begin providing unsolicited advice. One mother went to Reddit for assistance when her husband accused her of pampering their two-month-old son. Check out her story.
A new mother sought advice on Reddit after a quarrel with her spouse.
Our 2-month-old boy has been quite colicky. He screams frequently, but I know it’s because he’s uncomfortable and his tiny belly hurts. When my son screams, I instinctively respond. I typically take him up and hold him upright since it appears to be the most comfortable posture for him.
And, frankly, I despise watching him weep. In the evenings, I enjoy sitting in the rocking rocker with my kid and getting those baby hugs, which my husband believes is the reason he cries: I hold him too much.
My spouse believes that he needs to ‘cry it out’ in order to feel exhausted enough to sleep. At least that’s what his mother says: ‘You never really wept, but when you did, I simply let you scream it out.’ My spouse uses the justification that ‘weeping won’t damage him,’ but I simply disagree. But I’m not sure how to articulate why I disagree right now. I can’t find the words.
I attempt to explain that “that’s an old way of thinking,” “you can’t hold a baby too much,” and “babies aren’t manipulative and can’t be spoiled,” but he simply doesn’t get it. How can I convey to my husband that his boomer parents’ ‘cry it out’ advice is incorrect, despite his want to follow it? How can I convey that you cannot spoil a baby?
